I just finished reading Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman. What he writes about planning reminds me of Ellen Hendrikson’s comments about the various forms social anxiety can take (in this post over here). What Oliver Burkeman writes about planning is a larger observation:
[…] we plan compulsively, because the alternative is to confront how little control over the future we really have. Moreover, most of us seek a specifically individualistic kind of mastery over time - our culture’s ideal is that you should control your schedule, doing whatever you prefer, whenever you want - because it’s scary to confront the truth that almost everything worth doing, from marriage and parenting to business or politics, depends on cooperating with others, and therefore on exposing yourself to the emotional uncertainties of relationships. [page 31]
Further on in the book he writes:
But planning is an essential tool for constructing a meaning full life, and for exercising our responsibilities toward other people. The real problem isn’t planning. It’s that we take our plans to be something they aren’t. What we forget, or can’t bear to confront, is that, in the words of the American meditation teacher Joseph Goldstein, “a plan is just a thought.” We treat our plans as though they are a lasso, thrown from the present around the future, in order to bring it under our command. But all a plan is - all it could ever possibly be - is a present-moment statement of intent. It’s an expression of your current thoughts about how you’d ideally like to deploy your modest influence over the future. The future, of course, is under no obligation to comply.
It’s easy to argue that this isn’t a new idea. The New Testament’s letter from St James reads:
Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.” As it is, you boast in your arrogant schemes. [Chap 4: 13-16]
When I tutor students, I send them links to a resource that can help with a recurring problem they have with their writing. I try to encourage them to look at the link by making it specific. I take it for granted that they might not have the inclination to read through much information, but I also hope that the nudge might lead them to finding it useful. You never know if maybe, the way the information is presented just makes sense, if you haven’t just helped them have their own lightbulb moment.
And so, people talking about planning… Look at this lovely variety and the different aspects they highlight! A quote from C.S. Lewis that Oliver Burkeman included in his December 9th newsletter, The Imperfectionist, blesses even interruptions:
The great thing, if one can, is to stop regarding all the unpleasant things as interruptions of one's 'own', or 'real' life. The truth is of course that what one calls the interruptions are precisely one's real life – the life God is sending one day by day.